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A Family is Born through International Adoption

By Jenny Pope
Buckner International

(DALLAS, Texas) — The crowd waited patiently at the international arrivals gate, holding signs and posters, whispering to each other and frequently shifting left or right like a giant caterpillar. The group of 50, young and old, were eagerly awaiting their first glimpse of the little girl. Four young women donned the letters of her name on their t-shirts: E-L-L-A.

After more than an hour of bated breath, gasps and sighs, the crowd finally saw them: two weary but glowing parents and one happy little girl, sitting on her mother’s hip while waving to the crowd. The terminal erupted in cheers; it was a special moment more than13 years in the making.

The McDurham family was finally home.

I first met David and Amy McDurham, a pastor and counselor at First Baptist Church in Arlington, two and a half years ago when I began writing a series of articles about their adoption journey for Buckner International’s quarterly magazine, Buckner Today. David and Amy described the pain they endured during 10 years of infertility treatments before they finally “wrestled with God” and realized they were supposed to adopt. From that point on they embarked on what they call a faith journey towards international adoption.

That journey brought a series of turnarounds, wrong way signs and detours. Initially, they planned to adopt from China through Buckner. But when the waiting period increased to more than five years, they began to question whether China was God’s will for their family.

“There’s a much bigger picture here,” Amy said in an earlier interview. “I don’t know if I’ll ever get what that is…”

Now she knows.

God’s will for their family was realized in April 2008 when they received the first photos of their daughter – a beautiful, smiling Ethiopian girl. And it was further confirmed with a climactic 3 a.m. phone call from their caseworker on Oct. 13 telling them their court date passed and their paperwork was complete. Eleanor Yanet McDurham was legally theirs.

Less than three weeks later, I sat two rows behind David and Amy as they watched the in-flight television screen, transfixed by the tiny digital airplane as it crossed over Sudan and moved inch by inch towards another tiny dot on the map – Addis Ababa, Ethiopia.

“I just can’t believe that we’re in the same city as her,” David said aloud, almost in disbelief. The moment they were waiting for had finally arrived.

Meeting Ella Yanet

The next morning, David and Amy bounced in the backseat of orphanage director Tegist Mesfin’s Toyota truck as they traveled down a long, uneven dirt road towards the Buckner/Bright Hope Baby Home in Addis Ababa. Roaming goat herds, donkeys and horse-drawn rickshaws passed them along the way until the truck pulled up to a rod-iron gate before a towering peach-colored home. The sounds of children floated over the fence.

As soon as the gate opened, a rush of toddlers greeted the couple with hugs and kisses. The children spoke to each other eagerly, in rapid rhythmic Amharic, occasionally mentioning her name: “Yanet.”

David and Amy wound their way through the orphanage and up a narrow staircase toward the nursery where their daughter would be.

“Oh my goodness, she’s even more beautiful in person!” Amy cried out as she rounded the corner.

Sitting in the middle of the room, amidst a row of cribs and bright colorful pink walls, was the little girl David and Amy had prayed for more than 13 years before. Her curly brown hair was braided, and she was wearing the purple birthday dress David and Amy had sent her weeks before.

Amy laid down on the floor next to Yanet in effort to warm her up, but it was too much for the shy little girl to handle. So Amy swept her into her arms as Yanet’s caregivers looked on from across the hallway. They were each smiling.

“The only way I can describe that moment is surreal,” David later said. “After being childless for so long, it almost didn’t feel real.”

The first few days with Ella Yanet were tough, Amy said. They had been warned that Yanet was a bit “reserved,” but that seemed to be an understatement. David and Amy struggled at first to get their daughter to even smile.

“I never really worried about her not bonding with us,” Amy said, even though, she admitted it was more difficult than she expected.

David and Amy spent the first few days with Yanet, leaving her at the orphanage overnight. It wasn’t until they took her back to spend the night in the guest home that she finally began to blossom. Within a couple of days, she was a new baby – feeding herself, laughing, smiling, waving to strangers and playing peek-a-boo with her mom and dad.

“Tegist kept saying, ‘Who is this child? I don’t know who she is!’” David said. “She just transformed. Tegist said she was waiting for her parents for her personality to come out.”

The McDurhams spent two weeks in Ethiopia, bonding with their daughter and soaking in the Ethiopian culture. One final appointment with the U.S. Embassy sealed their future as Yanet received her United States Visa.

“It took a while to overcome the sensory overload [in Ethiopia],” David said, “but after we were there for a week I felt very comfortable.”

Ethiopia’s orphans

Children in Ethiopia are orphaned for many different reasons, but among the most prominent is AIDS and poverty. There are an estimated 4.8 million orphans in Ethiopia.

Yanet was orphaned due to poverty.

Ethiopia is experiencing the largest increase in U.S. international adoptions in 2008, from 1,255 to 1,725 adoptions in one year according to the State Department. It is the fourth most popular country for international adoption, behind Guatemala, China and Russia respectively. There are thousands of children in desperate need of a family, and the country’s Ministry of Women’s Affairs (MOWA) is working hard to place them into homes.

Buckner has been providing adoption services for Ethiopia since January 2008 when the Buckner/Bright Hope Baby Home first opened. Buckner has placed three children into Christian families, including one older boy adopted to a family in the Dallas area. There are currently seven families in the adoption process.

Buckner also supports orphans in Ethiopia through community development programs, feeding and humanitarian aid distribution programs, foster and kinship care, a community development center in Bantu and short-term mission trips.

‘The Lord is Gracious’

For David and Amy, bringing Ella Yanet home is both an end and a beginning. It’s the answer to 13 years of prayer, grief, and hope. And it’s the beginning of a new phase of blessings and greater understanding of God’s provision.

“I’ve learned to trust God in ways I’ve never known before,” David said.

Even Yanet’s name is a confirmation of God’s plan. Their chosen name, Eleanor Grace, seemed to match perfectly with their daughter’s African name, which means ‘the Lord is gracious.’

“God has taught me to trust Him because of who He is, not because of anything He has done or could do for us,” Amy said. “And that’s a scary thing. That’s scary trust because it makes you vulnerable.”

Now that she’s home, Ella Yanet represents a physical expression of God’s love. In many ways, adoption is symbolic of God’s grace for each and every Christian. We have all been adopted as God’s sons and daughters – as heirs to the throne.

“You know, we’ve been through a lot,” David said. “There have been a lot of difficult times. But it really does all just fade away. There’s a payoff in the end.”

“We were there when we were supposed to be,” Amy added. “When you trust in God to lead you, you have to trust Him the entire way. The illogical becomes logical when you trust God and when you’re doing what God wants you to do.”

To read more about David and Amy’s adoption journey to Ethiopia, visit www.beafamily.org.

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